Healthy Relationships & Patterns of Conflict Resolution.

The Bible is a Practical book as much as it is a Doctrinal book. The Doctrinal elements of Scriptures are meant to be expressed practically so that its relevance can be visible.

God upholds Relationships in a high esteem and desires that we flourish in our relationships .

So the Bible presents us with practically ways of resolving issues within our Relational Dynamics. One of such principle is ” Apology “. Which is a sincere admission of Wrong done, an Acknowledging of Hurts and Pain caused. And a Genuine Repentance of such with a deep desire to change .

So I share these steps to Apology, I pray that it will help you understand the place of sincere Repentance and Resolutions of Wrongdoing.

There are five steps to healing through Apology or apology language.

A. Apology language #1 is expressing regret. Examples are “I’m sorry” or “I feel badly about what I did.”

B. Apology language #2 is accepting responsibility. “I was wrong” or “It was my fault.”

C. Apology language #3 is making restitution. “What can I do to make it right?”

D. Apology language #4 is genuinely repenting. “I don’t want to continue hurting you. I know that it is wrong, and I don’t want it to happen again.”

E. Apology language #5 is requesting forgiveness. “Will you please forgive me?” or “I value our relationship, and I hope you will forgive me.”

Out of these five, your spouse, Children or family and friends are likely has a primary apology language. One of these is more important to him or her than the other four. To give a successful apology, you must learn to speak the apology language of your spouse, Children, family and friends .

You may discover your primary apology language by the way you confess your sin to God.

Listen for the words you typically use as you confess and ask forgiveness; they will give you clues.

Fortunately, the Lord knows our hearts and doesn’t depend on our words to decide whether we’re sincere!

Prayer

Father, thank you for making people so different. Please help me to understand my spouse, Children, family and friends and help me to figure out what is most important to them in an apology. Thank you for your constant forgiveness.

Shalom.