The godly walk with integrity; blessed are their children who follow them.Proverbs 20:7
How do you rebuild trust after an affair in a marriage relationship? Or after a difficult breach of Trust in Family Relational Dynamics?.
When Trust is broken, it take more than words, or apology to restore the broken Trust.
Proving the sincerity of our changed behavior by walking 🚶♀️in integrity is a necessity.
People don’t just get over things, they Heal through it and that requires the honest engagement of the offender in true change of lifestyle and actions.
One wife told me, “I’m willing to forgive my husband, but I don’t know if I can ever trust him again.” She was being honest.
Forgiveness does not restore trust. Forgiveness is the decision to lift the penalty, restore the offender, and let him or her back into your life, but it does not immediately restore trust.
If you had an affair, you broke the marriage covenant of fidelity. You destroyed trust in the heart of your spouse, and now only you can restore that trust.
If you did something that really hurt people who you relate with especially in the family 👪, it takes more than ” I am sorry” to restore their Trust.
Trust grows when you are trustworthy, so don’t lie to your spouse or family members and friends.
When you say you are going to do something, do it. If you promise to break off all contact with your former lover, do it—right down to the briefest e-mail or phone call.
Changing the behaviors that created the breach of Trust is a good place to start and it helps in the healing ✨ process.
When you say you are going to see a friend, be sure that is where you go. Encourage your spouse to call and check up on you.
Every time you prove that you are trustworthy, your spouse’s trust grows and the Trust of those you relate with grows, be it family members or friends.
But if you continue to be deceptive, trust will never recover. Remember that all relationships are sustained on the fabric of Trust.
For the offended, don’t build walls, and completely shutdown except when it is necessary to regain your self from the pain of the hurt.
Allow the Holy Spirit to begin ministering Grace and Strength in your heart ❤. Express to your spouse or family 👪 member and friend what really broke your trust so they know how to work on themselves or begin the change process. And avoid repeating the same actions.
Prayer 💛💛🙏🏻🙏🏻.
Ask God to make you a person of character and integrity, as Proverbs 20:7 mentions. Keep yourself completely above reproach; avoid even the appearance of wrongdoing (see 1 Thessalonians 5:22, kjv, kjv). That is the fastest way to restore trust in the heart of your spouse , Family 👪 and Friends.
Father, only you can restore trust in a broken relationship. I pray for your healing, your grace, and your restoration in our marriage and relationships for both large and small violations of each other’s trust. Make us both willing to take the necessary steps.
Shalom.