Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety.Proverbs 11:14 (NKJV)
Have you ever heard this? “You’re the one with the problem. I do not need counseling.”
The person who thinks he or she are always right is mistaken. None of us are perfect or fully mature in all things.
All of us need help. The book of Proverbs says that “in the multitude of counselors there is safety.”
I must as well emphasize the need for not just Counsel but godly Counsel.
Why?
A. Because other people can often bring clearer perspective to our problems.
The person who refuses to seek counsel and tries to handle things on his or her own is often insecure.
He or she thinks that to admit that they made a mistake is to prove that they is inadequate, and that is their greatest fear.
Perhaps his or her parents told him or her they would never make it, and the individual is trying hard to prove his or her parents wrong.
How can you help, if you are in a relationship to this person?
1. Give unconditional love. Speak the person primary love language often . Bring unconditional encouragement and love that focuses on the person strength and not weakness.
2. Focus on their accomplishments.
When they knows that they are secure in your love, perhaps they will be able to admit that they are not perfect.
When they do admit their imperfection, let them know how much you admire their courage for admitting their failures.
When they sees that their success is not dependent on being perfect, they can relax and become the person God has made them to be.
Prayer 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
Father, it’s sometimes hard for me to admit my own mistakes. Please help me to realize that pretending I’m perfect doesn’t make the problems go away but just makes things worse.
When my spouse or friends struggles with this, show me how to respond lovingly in a way that builds him or her up.
Help me to love unconditionally, not based on what he or she does.
Shalom.