Healing the wounds of the past

“We made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others”. This is one of the ” Steps” in the AA fellowship which is a Life Changing Experience and Principle for anyone who desires to be free from the pain and hurt of wrong done to another human.

You see Sin are committed in three Folds – Against God and His Nature – Against Others and Against Self.

In any case Repentance is necessary and forgiveness is important .

However, when it comes to others and the Wrong we have done to them, making amends is necessary especially when such will not further hurt them.

Jacob understood this Principle and he out lived it when he encountered his brother. This story is very important in the context of its occurrence.

Human relationships are vital elements of life, joy,peace and self harmony, so when wrong is done, don’t assume that if you have gotten over it the other person also should get over it.

Apply the Principle of reconciliation and Repentance and forgiveness, so that true Healing may occur. God desires that we live in peace one with another and that cannot be achieved if we continue to hold back and hold on to past hurts and wrong done.

Returning to someone we have hurt is a scary thing. The passing years, lack of communication, and memories of anger and hateful emotional exchanges can all create tremendous anxiety.

Even though we may make some contact through a third party, there will still be tension until we see that person face to face.

This was the case for Jacob upon returning to see Esau. “Then Jacob looked up and saw Esau coming with his 400 men. Then Jacob went on ahead and Esau ran to meet him and embraced him, threw his arms around his neck, and kissed him. And they both wept.” (Genesis 33:1, 3-4)

After being introduced to Jacob’s family, Esau asked, “ ‘And what were all the flocks and herds I met as I came?’ . . . Jacob replied, ‘They are a gift, my lord, to ensure your friendship.’ ‘My brother, I have plenty,’ Esau answered. ‘Keep what you have for yourself.’ But Jacob insisted, ‘No, if I have found favor with you, please accept this gift from me.

And what a relief to see your friendly smile. It is like seeing the face of God! Please take this gift I have brought you, for God has been very gracious to me. I have more than enough.’ And because Jacob insisted, Esau finally accepted the gift.” (Genesis 33:8-11).

Jacob’s tremendous fear gave way to relief. The last time Jacob had seen Esau, Jacob was in fear for his life. With the passing of time, both of them had changed.

When Jacob faced his brother, he found that there was still affection, even though they both remembered the pain.

There are people in your life today, you may think are not going to ever be open to relate with you, but if truly you ask for forgiveness, and allow God touch their hearts , you will be amazed at how much they also have missed you. So, don’t allow fear or pride stop you. Go on to newness by reigniting the fire of your relationship.

Shalom.