Forgiveness

As we set out to mend relationships, there may be some things that are beyond our control. Some people may refuse to be reconciled, even when we do our best to make amends.

This may leave us feeling like victims. Once again we are stuck with the pain of unresolved issues.

We may be left with negative feelings that continue to surface.

What can we do to gain control in these situations?

Jesus said, “But to you who are willing to listen, I say, love your enemies! Do good to those who hate you. Bless those who curse you. Pray for those who hurt you. . . . Love your enemies! Do good to them. Lend to them without expecting to be repaid. Then your reward from heaven will be very great, and you will truly be acting as children of the Most High, for he is kind to those who are unthankful and wicked” (Luke 6:27-28, 35).

We no longer need to be controlled by other people’s dispositions and actions. Even when we have done our best to make amends for the wrongs we have done, the situation may not change.

But our perspective must change and our disposition as well, as we come to accept that forgiveness begins with us. We ask God for forgiveness, ask others whom we may have offended but even when they refuse to accept our apology and see our repentance, we must forgive ourselves. For therein lays our self healing and heart restoration.

And even when we have come to terms with the wrongs that have been done against us, our feelings may not change.

But we don’t have to be held captive by our feelings or the feelings of others. We can choose to forgive and act in loving ways.

This will free us from being controlled by anyone other than God. As we choose to forgive others and do good, our feelings will change with time.

With a changed feelings comes fresh opportunities and perspective . You will once again be able to open your heart for meaningful relationships and Experience the Joy that comes from such Godly relationships .

Shalom.